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Etiquette with the Beloved (Prophet Muhammad)
Author : Mufti Hani Al-Abid
Date Added : 31-07-2025

 

Etiquette with the Beloved (Prophet Muhammad)

 

Among the greatest etiquettes that a Muslim must possess is etiquette with the Prophet (peace be upon him). A Muslim whom Allah Almighty has honored with the sweetness of faith cultivates the culture of etiquette with His Messenger (peace be upon him) in his heart and mind, a culture that the Holy Quran called upon Muslims to embody.

Let us reflect on Surah Al-Hujurat to understand the importance of showing proper etiquette to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). Allah Almighty says {what means}: "O you who have believed, do not raise your voices above the voice of the Prophet or be loud to him in speech like the loudness of some of you to others, lest your deeds become worthless while you perceive not. Indeed, those who lower their voices before the Messenger of Allah - it is those whose hearts Allah has tested for righteousness. For them is forgiveness and a great reward. Indeed, those who call you from behind the private chambers - most of them do not reason. And if they had been patient until you came out to them, it would have been better for them. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful." [Al-Hujurat/2-5].

It is authentically narrated from Anas ibn Malik that he said: When this verse was revealed: "O you who have believed, do not raise your voices above the voice of the Prophet..." [Al-Hujurat/2] to the end of the verse, Thabit ibn Qays sat in his house and said: "I am from the people of the Fire." He then refrained from coming to the Prophet (peace be upon him). So the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked Sa'd ibn Mu'adh, saying: "O Abu Amr, what is the matter with Thabit? Is he ill?" Sa'd replied: "He is my neighbor, and I have not known him to be ill." Sa'd then went to him and mentioned to him the saying of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). Thabit said: "This verse was revealed, and you all know that I am among those with the loudest voices to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), so I am from the people of the Fire." Sa'd then mentioned this to the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Rather, he is from the people of Paradise" [Sahih Muslim]. In some narrations, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to him: "You are not among them; rather, you will live in goodness and die in goodness."

Based on these verses, scholars have deduced the prohibition of raising one's voice near his noble grave (peace be upon him) and when reciting his hadith (peace be upon him), as a sign of etiquette with the Prophet (peace be upon him), because his sanctity after his death is like his sanctity during his lifetime.

There is another etiquette that we need to be reminded of – especially during the occasion of his birthday (peace be upon him) – which I direct to those in the field of Islamic da'wah (preaching), including writers and researchers. It is not befitting for someone writing about the biography of the Beloved (peace be upon him) to offer prayers upon the Prophet in a symbolic form, such as the letter (ص) or (صلعم). The scholarly literature of Islamic scholars, who dedicated themselves to serving the Shari'ah, has warned against writing the salutations upon the Prophet (peace be upon him) in an abbreviated form. Ibn Kathir, in "Al-Ba'ith al-Hathith," quoted Ibn al-Salah as saying: "And let the prayers and salutations be written in full, meaning completely without abbreviation or symbol. He said: And do not suffice with saying: (عليه السلام - 'alaihis salam'), meaning: Rather, let (صلى الله عليه وسلم - salla Allahu 'alaihi wa sallam) be written clearly and completely" (Al-Ba'ith al-Hathith, Ibn Kathir/P.165).

This etiquette is something that the Shari'ah has called for and the Chosen One (peace be upon him) has affirmed. It is narrated in a hadith from Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: "I was the scribe of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) on the Day of Hudaybiyyah. He wrote: 'This is what Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah, and Suhayl ibn Amr have agreed upon.' Suhayl said: 'If we knew he was the Messenger of Allah, we would not have fought him. Erase it.' I said: 'By Allah, he is the Messenger of Allah, even if your nose is rubbed in dust! No, by Allah, I will not erase it.' The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 'Show me its place.' So I showed him, and he erased it" (Al-Sunan al-Kubra by Al-Nasa'i). The action of our master Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) was a display of etiquette, as his soul would not allow him to erase the phrase "Messenger of Allah" after he had written it.

Qadi Iyad said in "Al-Shifa": "Know that the sanctity of the Prophet (peace be upon him) after his death, and his veneration and glorification, are as obligatory as they were during his lifetime. This applies when he (peace be upon him) is mentioned, and when his hadith and Sunnah are mentioned, and when his name and biography are heard, and in dealing with his family and descendants, and in glorifying his household and companions. Abu Ibrahim al-Tujibi said: 'It is obligatory upon every believer, whenever he is mentioned or mentioned in his presence, to humble himself, show devotion, reverence, calm his movements, and adopt the awe and veneration for him as he would for himself if he were in his presence, and to observe the etiquette with which Allah has taught us'" (Al-Shifa, Qadi Iyad Vol. 2/P.28).

Qadi Iyad, in "Al-Shifa," also presented wonderful examples from the pious predecessors [Salaf] that demonstrate the existence of these refined sensibilities and noble etiquette in dealing with the legacy of our master Muhammad (peace be upon him). It is narrated that Sa'id ibn al-Musayyib (may Allah have mercy on him) was approached by a man asking him about a hadith while he was reclining. He sat up and narrated it to him. The man said: "I wished you had not troubled yourself" (meaning, by sitting up while he was ill). He replied: "I disliked narrating about the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) while reclining." And Malik ibn Anas, whenever he went out to teach the noble hadith, would perform ghusl (ritual bath), apply perfume, and wear new clothes. He would sit with humility, and incense (oud) would continuously be burned – a sweet scent filling his gathering – until he finished narrating the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).

O Allah, make us observant of proper etiquette with Your Beloved, who guided us to You (peace be upon him), and inspire us with our rightful guidance, O Almighty, O Wise.

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In the Sharia-compliant viewing  at a prospective bride (*al-naẓrah al-sharʿiyyah*), is it permissible for the man to see the woman without a veil (*ḥijāb*)?

All praise is due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon our master, the Messenger of Allah.
It is sunnah for the suitor to see the woman he is seeking to marry within the limits the Sharīʿah permits, namely looking at the face and the hands (palms and backs), based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): “Look at her, for it is more likely to bring about harmony between you.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhī.
The suitor may also ask one of the women to look at the woman he is seeking to marry. In that case, she is permitted to see of her what she is normally permitted to see, which is not limited to the face and hands, and she then describes these matters to the suitor. It is narrated on the authority of Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sent Umm Sulaym to look at a girl, and said: “Smell her breath, and look at her heels.” Narrated by Aḥmad in his Musnad.
It is stated in Tuḥfat al-Muḥtāj (Vol.7/p.192): “For one who cannot easily look, or does not wish to look himself, it is sunnah to send someone who is permitted to look at her, to observe her and describe her to him, even regarding what he himself is not permitted to look at. He thereby gains through the sending what he would not gain through looking. Because of the added need for this, it is excepted from the prohibition of a woman describing another woman to a man.”
The permissibility of looking is conditional upon his resolve to marry her once he is able to, his predominant assumption that his proposal will be accepted, and his assumption that the woman is free of marriage and of a waiting period (ʿiddah). Otherwise, looking is forbidden.
Accordingly, it is not permissible for the suitor to look at anything other than the face and hands. He may ask one of his maḥram women, such as his mother or sister, to see the woman unveiled, and the Sharia-compliant viewing (of a prospective bride) must take place in the presence of one of the woman’s maḥrams. And Allah Almighty knows best.

What is the ruling on doubting whether one or two prostrations were performed?

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon our Master, the Messenger of Allah.
 
If a worshiper is in doubt regarding the number of units (rak'ahs) or prostrations (sajdahs) performed, he must build upon the minimum (i.e., assume the lower number) and perform the prostration of forgetfulness (Sujud al-Sahw) before the Salam at the end of the prayer. This is based on the report from ‘Ata’ ibn Yasar that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'When anyone of you is in doubt about his Salat (prayer) and does not know how many he has prayed, three or four (Rak'at) he should cast aside his doubt and base his prayer on what he is sure of. Then, he should perform two prostrations before Taslim (salutation). If he has prayed five Rak'at, they will make his Salat (prayer) an even number for him and if he has prayed exactly four, they (i.e. two prostrations) will be humiliation for the devil..' (Narrated by Abu Dawud).
 
It is stated in Al-Muqaddimah al-Hadramiyyah: 'If one doubts [whether he performed] a bowing (ruku’), a prostration, or a rak'ah, he must perform it and prostrate [for forgetfulness], even if the doubt is removed before the Salam—unless the doubt is removed before he performs what would potentially be an addition. Thus, if he doubts whether he prayed three or four, he is obligated to build upon the minimum.' And Allah the Exalted knows best.

Is the Saying "Whatever is Taken by the Sword of Shyness is Forbidden" an Authentic Ḥadīth?

All praise is due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon our master the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
The saying "Whatever is taken by the sword of shyness is forbidden" is not an authentic ḥadīth, though its underlying meaning is sound. The established sharʿī principle is that a Muslim's wealth is not lawful for anyone to take except with his wholehearted consent, as Allah the Almighty says {what means}: "O you who have believed, do not consume one another's wealth unjustly, but only [in lawful] business by mutual consent." [Al-Nisā/ 29] And the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Listen to me and you will live well: do not wrong others, do not wrong others, do not wrong others. Indeed, a man's wealth is not lawful except with his full, willing consent." (Reported by Aḥmad in his Musnad.) Whatever is taken through the pressure of shyness or social embarrassment runs directly counter to genuine, wholehearted consent.
The jurists have explicitly stated that whatever is taken by means of the "sword of shyness" carries the same ruling as that which is taken by coercion — it must be returned to its rightful owner.
Ibn Ḥajar al-Haytamī, may Allah have mercy upon him, states in al-Fatāwā al-Kubrā (Vol.3/P.30): "Do you not see the reported scholarly consensus that whoever has something taken from him purely out of shyness, without his genuine consent, does not pass ownership of it to the one who took it? They reasoned that this constitutes a form of coercion through the 'sword of shyness,' comparable to coercion at the point of an actual sword. Indeed, many people would rather submit to the literal sword and endure the pain of its wound than submit to this first kind of coercion, out of fear for their dignity and standing — which people of sound judgment hold dear and guard most fiercely." And Allah the Almighty knows best.

What is the ruling of Islamic Law on a father shaking hands with his son’s wife after she has been divorced three times?

All praise is due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon our master, the Messenger of Allah.
The wife of one’s son is among the women permanently prohibited to the husband’s father as soon as the marriage contract  is concluded, based on the saying of Allah the Exalted: “Prohibited to you are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts, your maternal aunts, your brother’s daughters, your sister’s daughters, your foster mothers, your foster sisters, your wives’ mothers, and your stepdaughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives with whom you have consummated marriage. But if you have not consummated marriage with them, there is no sin upon you. [Also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.” [al-Nisāʾ/23]
This prohibition begins once the son’s marriage contract with his wife is complete, and it remains in force even if the son separates from her before consummation or before any seclusion (khalwah) with her. It is therefore permissible for the father to shake her hand and to be alone with her, provided there is no fitnah (temptation) and no suspicion.
It is stated in ʿUmdat al-Sālik (p. 204): “It is forbidden to marry… the wives of one’s fathers and of one’s sons. All of these women become prohibited by the mere contract, … all of that being a permanent prohibition.” End quote, with slight adaptation. And Allah Almighty knows best.

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